7 obstacles stopping you to start something new (aka why we don't like change)

When you have more resolve than doubts and fears, nothing can really stop you from striving.  This post is not about strengthening your resolve, but to explore the antagonist that is in the way.  Here are 7 obstacles that are stopping you from doing what you initially wanted:

The habitual underlying

In physics, the principle of inertia tells us that an object tends to preserve its present state whether it be resting or moving, meaning that it’s more difficult for an object at rest to move than a moving object to keep moving.  It resonate with the idiom, "first step is always the hardest”, and the old Chinese saying, “all things are difficult at the beginning” (萬事起頭難).  And a quote from Thomas Fuller says, “all things are difficult before they are easy”.   

Or, in a more casual form, “keeping your shit together is HARD, but GETTING your shit together is harder.”

It's hard to start a new project; hard to get rid of that old habit; it's just hard to accept change.

Are they all the same phenomenon?  And WHY is it so damn DIFFICULT to start or change something?  I’ll explore the issue in the next post.

The process toward equilibrium

Self-awareness is the first step to resolve internal conflict.

Conflict left unresolved leads to the body getting sick, mind filled with unrest, heart darkened.


Mutual understanding is the first step to resolve conflict between parties.

Left unresolved, people will be divided, society shattered, war breaks out.

Good and Evil

When we encounter the negatives, we resent them and run away.

When we encounter the positives, we embrace them and crave for more.

Despite our effort, the negatives never cease completely,

And the positives never last to our satisfaction.

There is another way, another state of being.

Desire

Ever heard of your mind thinking one of these below?

"If only I have _________, then I'd be happy!"

"If only _________ hadn't happened, my life would've been perfect!"

"All I ever wanted is _________, why can't I have it?"

Utopia

Conflicts and problems are an inherent part of life.

This realization is not to be used as an excuse to escape from the conflict or problem that you're having,

But to stop you from deluding yourself that all conflicts and problems must cease in order for you to be content with life.

That simply will not happen.

Your house

When there's a water leak in your house, what do you do?